I call you 'hubby' not because that's our special nickname or because it has any significance. I call you 'hubby' because every time I tried to call you on the phone, other 'Tim's' popped up. I was tired to having to scroll to the right 'Tim' and so I renamed you. Just like that- after all this time, I gave you a new name!
Let's talk about ALL this time. Where did the time go? What in the hell happened to us? It seems like just yesterday you were chasing me down the halls of the first school we worked at together. You might tell that story different- but we both know it's true. You knew you couldn't live without me.
I suppose if we get honest . . . I couldn't live without you either. I just had no idea where we'd end up.
So here we sit many years down the road, four kids later, making even more adjustments to our life.
We have been beyond blessed to have only the normal stressors of marriage. There haven't been any major health or wealth problems. There's been no infidelity or deep dark secrets. We've been damn lucky.
However, we have also worked really hard. There's been lots of 'talks'. I know in these 'talks', I talk A LOT. You've even mentioned a time or two that I beat a dead horse. Non-the-less, it's work.
Today we head down a different path. You're off to a new job. The one thing that has stayed consistent in our life together is change. Change has continued to occur often and I have continued to struggle with it.
Yep . . . I'll admit it! I very much dislike change. I'm not a first born or a Type A personality. But, I certainly like my ducks all in a row. I like to prepare and anticipate what is coming. I like to be in control!!!!
This last week has been a little shaky. Irritation could be used as an understatement and the tension certainly could have been cut with a knife. I've been short, snippy and edgy. I know this. Below is what I really meant to say instead of glaring and yelling at you most of the weekend!
Dear Hubby,
I love you. I'm beyond proud of you. You are an amazing man- your work ethic, parenting and wife-caring skills are untouchable. I can take you anywhere. Your charisma and charm mold you to any situation. While you suck at dealing with death or uncomfortable situations, your inappropriate jokes are always a hit. You're consistent- a constant among all the change. You're a rock; a solid voice of reason for so many. You're genuine, real and honest. You're caring! And . . . you're freaking funny (though you used to be way funnier when I was younger!).
As we maneuver the new path we are headed down, there's not another co-pilot I'd rather have. You can count on my special 'crazy' staying around (I know I'm a control-freak!), but I'll work on my glaring! Keep on keeping on hubby of mine. I'm so lucky to have you!
Lots of love forever and always,
Wifey
P.S. I love you to the moon and back 10,000 times (even if Raina only loves you 16 . . . I've got to be someone's favorite!).
If only we could all use our words just a smidge better. What would marriages be like if we could actually say what we were feeling? What if we could control our behaviors to avoid assumptions and judgments?
Does your spouse know how you feel about a current situation you're in? Have you taken time to communicate? If you're over-due like I was . . . don't stress. Seize the moment and do it now! Send a text, make a call, write a note. Our marriages are certainly worth the work!
Communicate today
Show appreciation
Stay calm
Enjoy the journey you have been blessed with, love the people in your life, smile :) and remember, 'It's Okay'.
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