If we are to forgive ourselves for messing up or failing, we must also forgive those around us for doing the same.
The day you vow to love your spouse until death do you part, you don't always know how flawed the other half may be. Hopefully you've got a pretty good understanding, but there will be no better understanding than years of seeing the best and worst of your forever roommate.
If we take a step back and look at the total picture of our spouses, the hope is that the good far outweighs the bad. The wish is that each day you wake up next to your significant other, loving him/her just a little bit more than the day before. The desire is that after years of ups and downs and all-arounds, you end up knowing you can't live without your imperfect partner.
Now, I must clarify for my own partner in crime that I am married to a damn good man. While he may not be perfect, I have very little to complain about. We have our 'discussions' and our banters and our knock-em-dead-with-a-look stare downs- but overall, we feel lucky to have one another each and every day (well, most days that is)!
Are you thankful everyday for your partner in crime? Do you still have playful moments and full-on belly laughs? Do you sometimes stare at your other half and wonder how you got so lucky?
This #marriagemonday, my hope is that you take time to notice the growth in your marriage; that you recognize how imperfect you each are, yet how perfectly partnered you have become.
This weekend we had the opportunity to go out with some of my husband's buddies from high school. Story after story was told about the good old days. Memories were shared and sad times were recognized. I felt such joy watching my husband in his 'old' element. It was amazing to realize that even though I didn't know him at that time, his boyish qualities turned him into the man he is today (though the boyish behaviors still continue ... ha!).
My husband and I will continue to mess up. At times we will fail. We will even hurt one another in future moments, forgetting to manage our emotions. All that being said, we will each have a partner. Whether the crime is little or big, we will be there partaking in it together.
Focus on the partnership your years together have created.
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